I haven't looked at this blog for ages, but I have been thinking about it this week. In December it was time to go for the annual boob-squashing event. Look at that - Annual! Not monthly, or quarterly, annual! Doctors shake my hand and say "see you next year" these days... how things change. Seems a lifetime* since I staggered out of the chemo suite clutching the carrier bag full of the bits I'd need before the next round a few weeks hence. The days when the Macmillan nurses knew my name and used it without having to look it up or check my hospital number.
So I went for the squashing, and shook with terror for a few weeks. They do them in advance these days, so you're not cluttering up the waiting room between the mammography suite and the consulting rooms. It's a better system I'm sure, the clinics are less crowded, and three weeks after I had the mammo they sent me a letter saying that everything was fine. Which was nice.
On Tuesday it was time to go back and see the surgeon. A formality, after all the scan was fine... but still I worry. I waited my turn in the shiny new Breast Care Centre (why are the waiting rooms always pink?), smiled at the extraordinarily cheerful lady in the wheelchair who insisted on greeting everyone and finding out their names; next to me were Polly and Molly, so I was immediately renamed Dolly just to keep things tidy. Eventually I was ushered through to see the Great Man standing in the office doorway.
Just briefly, my heart missed a beat, as I was dragged back through time to the day when I saw him standing in a different doorway and knew that the test results couldn't be good, they don't wheel out the Great Man for that... Then the nice nurse gently shepherded me to the right, into another room where the Great Man's sidekick (who by now of course is a Great Man in his own right) was waiting with a smile.
Everything was fine. There wasn't any reason to believe otherwise, but, I worry. It's what I do. I probably need to keep taking Anastrazole for another five years, or maybe they will change it to something else with different side-effects, to try and improve one or two aspects of life, but I need to see the oncologists to talk about that over the next couple of months. Aside from that, though, there wasn't a lot to say. He smiled and said that he wanted me back just once more, this time next year, then he'd let me go... I said that was rather scary, and he squeezed my hand and promised me he wouldn't let me go if he wasn't absolutely sure...
It was a strange walk through the hospital, past the chemo suite, past the blank wall where the old Breast Care Centre used to be... the shiny new one is actually two years old now, and they've demolished the room where I was told that it was cancer, so I can't ever see the Great Man standing in that doorway again. Somehow that's a comfort, even though I know that others have that shock every day, just in a different room. But, as I walked along the long corridor out of the hospital, the sun was shining, and I began to believe what I'd been told... just a little bit.
On New Year's Day, my ex died of cancer. I knew he was ill, we both knew he was dying. We'd kept in loose touch, sporadic phone calls and emails, and I knew when he stopped responding to my texts that things were getting bad. Social media brought me the news the day after, before his brother managed to find my contact details and it felt very strange indeed. We'd been apart many years, but it still hurt in a way I hadn't expected; I have lost friends before but never someone who had been my lover. I went to the funeral, and met up with people who were very dear to me when I knew them twenty years ago, heard the same old stories he used to tell, and we all laughed and remembered the good things. Everything was the same, and so much was different, life moves on, yet things stay the same.
I wondered if I should come back and update the blog, and wasn't sure if I should. It seems sad to just leave it alone, it's been a friend and a confidante for so long. I had a phase where I was almost defined by cancer, and for a while I felt this blog was part of that, which is why it's not been updated for almost two years. There's been a cocktail of things brought me here to write today... the hospital visit, my ex's death, the fact that Comic Relief is coming to remind me of my Mum... even the fact that @LisaLynch** retweeted something I'd said a few days ago***.
Then I remembered that I had promised to set up a new blog for the book reviews I write... and here I am.
There may be more updates, if I find something useful to say, but then again there may not. If I go quiet for a while, it's not because of something horrid, it's because life is keeping me busy. Because I am reading, or sailing, or looking at the bluebells. Laughing with my grandchildren, chilling with my friends. If reading this helps someone on their journey through the scary dark forest, then I'm glad... I am sure everything has moved on so far that that my experiences are out of date and treatments will be different, but I would wager that the emotions will be the same.
There were snowdrops today - soon there will be bluebells. There will always be bluebells****.
* It was, more than four years ago. Blimey...
**Well, not personally, you understand. At least I don't think so...
*** Woohoo!
**** Did I mention that I like bluebells? A lot.
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